PS: this is something I wrote a few years back, I no longer stand by my words.
Could you disagree with me if I claimed that love is just an
illusion?
Why do we fall in love?
We each have a set of expectations that get molded as we
experience new things or meet new people. At some point, these expectations
form your ideal partner.
The more that image in your head conforms to what you see in
front of you, the harder you’re likely to fall.
The bad news is that people crave to meet their perfect
person. They may, and often do, force themselves to disregard defects… and it
is only with time that these surge again.
Another problem is conviction. Once people make up their
mind, it is very hard for them to get back on their decision; even more so, if their
mind was spoken.
They say opposites attract; but truth be told, you are as
likely to fall for someone who is your opposite (fascination) as with someone
who resembles you (sympathy).
Why do we stay in relationships?
Fear is an important factor, which people rarely
acknowledge. It is the main influence that keeps people in long-term
relationships:
- The fear of not meeting someone else
- The fear of breaking the routine
- The fear of loosing friends
- The fear of hurting a partner
- The fear of not belonging
- The fear of facing the world alone
All of it leads to commitment: the will to get reassured
that your partner will not abandon you. In some cases, if the person lacks
confidence, it may ignite possessiveness and jealousy.
What's the point of love?
Love has no reason. It’s a mixture of complex emotions.
Thus, it has no values. It does not abide to any moral standards; although, it
could be tamed by social ones.
It has its share of negative effects. It inhibits ambitions,
leads to compromises, creates unmatched pain and suffering, demands time and
dedication.
So why do people invest themselves in creating their own
misery ?!
